libra- the scales

I love the idea of balance. In fact it's integral to my life. Visually, elements around me have to be even, balanced and proportional. Emotionally, I like feeling things are smooth. Regarding relationships, I want people to give as much as I do, to meet me in the middle. I dislike feeling that I'm the one making most or all of the effort. This has been a problem in my past. If I feel engaged by someone I want to pursue that relationship. But what if they don't want the same? What if the other person doesn't need another friend, isn't interested in dating me? How do I turn off the wanting to get to know them? I don't know. I'm struggling with this more and more recently. Alternately, I feel I'm dealing with it better. I feel more confident, more respectful of myself and more able to not call/email/IM/anything someone who doesn't return the attraction.